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Day 2 – Getting Back Into Routine

Today was the first Saturday in a while that I could take my “no human day”. For those of you who don’t know, I take every Saturday (or try to) for myself. I try not to go anywhere, I try not to get on Facebook, and I don’t talk to anyone. It’s one day, just for me, to unwind from the week, and recharge my batteries.

But starting last night, I began thinking of everything I needed to do. Balance the checkbook, dishes, etc. You know, the “adult chores”. Ugh. Anyway, as I was thinking about all the things that needed to be done, I realized how long it had been since I’ve felt any semblance of normal. My routine went out the window about a month before Christmas, and today I finally feel like I’m getting back on track.

Which brings me to my point for the day: routine.

I learned early on in sobriety that having a routine is important to my sanity. I love chaos, when I create it. But, when there are things out of my control, I go nuts. Having a routine helps though. And sticking to that routine helps too.

I also learned early on in sobriety that there is no such thing as balance. Balance in life, work, or both is a myth. It is a myth because we live in an imperfect world. There will always be things that are out of my control. People, things, situations. Too many factors that throw off my balance. But routine, that I can control. I can control the meetings I go to everyday. I can control my effort to do the dishes. I can control my effort to make my bed. All it takes is a little willingness.

Today, if I could give advice to someone in early sobriety, it would be start a routine, and make good habits. For the first few months to a year, pick a few meetings that you know you can go to on a regular basis. If there are good habits you’d like to start doing, like doing the dishes every day, brushing your teeth, or taking a walk, start out slow. Pick one thing a week to start doing, and once you’ve got that routine down, add something else.

And, if you find yourself unable to stay with your routine, don’t panic. If things get a little crazy, and you can’t make your meeting, or whatever else is part of your routine, start back up when you can. Let the craziness pass, because it always does, and get back into your routine slowly again. Cut yourself some slack, and don’t beat yourself up.

Something I learned over time is, I am human. Oddly enough, I forget that sometimes. I am human, I make mistakes, and sometimes things don’t go the way I had planned. But beating myself up because of it doesn’t help. So, when I didn’t get my dishes done until 8 p.m. tonight, I didn’t beat myself up. I took it easy, and made a mental note to try better tomorrow. That’s all I can do.

Originally published January 7, 2016 – medium.com

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