The Universe Is Not Against You
The Universe Is Not Against You
Have you ever felt like the Universe is against you? We’ve all had days where anything that could go wrong, did. Those days when nothing seems to be going your way. Frustrating, isn’t it? I can say, from my experience, the Universe isn’t the cause. It’s called life.
The Universe is too big to be conspiring against you.
Yes, it’s good when things are going well. All the traffic signals are in your favor on the way to work. That big project you’ve been working on gets finished on time. You find $20 on the ground when you’re dead broke.
But what about the times when life sucks? You’re late for work and the boss yells at you. You take a shortcut home and it takes you twice as long because of construction. You lose $50 out of your wallet when you’re already broke.
Ouch. Hurts, doesn’t it?
Unfortunately, that’s life. It’s learning to live life on life’s terms that’s important.
Back when I was still drinking, I felt like the Universe was punishing me.
For example, I went out of town to a friend’s wedding. I told myself that weekend I was going to quit drinking for good. Saturday, I lasted all day, and did not drink. But, that afternoon on the way home (an hour drive), the urge hit me. I needed a drink.
When I got back to my city, the football game had ended. Scores of heavy traffic all over. I decided it would be faster to stop at a convenience store on one of the main streets, instead of going to one out of my way. Big mistake. It took me half an hour to get home, which was less than a mile away. I kept thinking “ok god. This is my punishment for drinking, isn’t it?” I thought god was punishing me for backing down on my promise to quit drinking.
Another time, I splurged on a book. It was a rare, collector’s edition book by my favorite author. I was broke, but I convinced myself that I had to have it. So, I paid for it with my credit card, which was already loaded with debt I couldn’t afford to pay off. Over the next few years my financial situation declined. I convinced myself that this book was cursed, and the Universe was punishing me for buying it. It wasn’t my drinking that caused my financial woes. It had to be the book. Being the smart alcoholic that I was, I sold the book, for less than what I bought it for.
Guess what? My financial situation didn’t improve. It got worse before it got better.
After I got sober, I realized those two events didn’t happen because the Universe was against me, they happened because I made poor decisions. I also believe that everything happens for a reason. When I make bad decisions, and I go through pain, I learn a lesson. Don’t do that shit anymore.
Today, when something happens in my life, I don’t blame the Universe, or god. Instead, I ask myself what lesson my Higher Power is trying to teach me. I continue to look for growth opportunities in the difficult times. Sometimes I don’t know why I’m going through something. Sometimes the answer isn’t obvious right away. When those times arise, I try to be patient, and wait for the answer to come.
If I allow myself to be patient, and wait for the answer, I can look back and see how I’ve grown through the struggle. I grew from my financial struggles because I learned not to take money for granted today. I grew from my struggle the night I sat in traffic because I wasn’t ready to get sober yet. The timing wasn’t right for me to quit drinking that night.
It is difficult to see growth opportunities in my struggles today. When I’m going through pain, I can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. But, if I am patient, I find the answer I am looking for.
Originally published August 3, 2016 – medium.com